Thinking about your client
- Put yourself into your office
- Think of a particular client
- What do you think about that client?
- What do you value about them?
- What are their unique characteristics?
- In what ways if any do you express to them what you value about them?
- As you think about that client how do they organise their experience?
- Is that experience organised by particular body tension?
- Is that experience organised by expression of some particular affect or the importance of that affect?
- How do they organise that experience cognitively? In other words what kind of script beliefs did they have to help them organise their experience and although they may do some strange things and have some strange ways of seeing the work in what context was that pretty normal?
- And if you had of lived in their context how would you have survived?
- So what is it you do that makes contact with this person?
- What do you do that reaches out and touches their heart and soul? And what is the quality of relationship that you are bringing to their life.
- And how does the quality of relationship that your bringing differ from the other relationships in their life.
- And what is that sparkle in them, that sense that keeps them alive, that brought them to therapy with you? What keeps them going rather than giving up in despair?
- And what is it that you do in therapy that probably no other therapist would do it the way that you do it?
- What is it that you bring and who you are that makes a very treasured experience for that client?
Private communication from Richard Erskine 2013