In this Video Bob Cooke TSTA explains The Manchester Institute for Psychotherapy 4 year Psychotherapy training programme.
‘Everyday Sadists’ Among Us
Jan Hoffman states in this article that ”Those who enjoy inflicting at least moderate pain on others, directly or vicariously, mingle with us daily”. These are not extremes such as Hannibal Lecter or Marquis to Sade but ‘everyday sadists’ such as mean girls at school or college who taunt their peers, or a teacher who constantly bullies a student in lessons. You may. i am sure, be able to come up with your own examples of people from your own life experience.
There is apparently very little research on sadism. Dr Paulhus who has made some headway with studies in this area, describe sadists as those people who look for opportunities to hurt people and prolong it for their own pleasure. Studies also indicate that sadists will choose to hurt people without provocation, even if the act takes time and effort — the only reward being the pleasure of inflicting cruelty.
So why are some people so chronically mean? Take a look at this most recent study and see what you think.
A Spouse’s Voice Rings Loudest in a Crowded Room
Imagine you are at a noisy, crowded party and two voices are talking to you at once. One is your partner’s voice, the other voice is a strangers; which voice are you most likely to hear?
New research by Canadian researchers at Queens University found that it would always be your partners voice that you would tune into.
Age has a big part to play here though! Interestingly they discovered that if you were between 44 and 60 years of age you are also able to then ignore your spouses voice and focus on the stranger’s voice instead. Older couples aged over 60 in the study, favoured the partners voice but then couldn’t ignore it. So why does this happen?
Read on to find out more about this fascinating research.
A Spouse’s Voice Rings Loudest in a Crowded Room – ABC News.
7 Quick Tips to Lower Your Anxiety Today
Do you want easy actionable steps to reduce your feelings of anxiety? Would you like to get started today?
Linda Esposito from talktherapybiz.com can help!
She has produced a great short video that takes you through seven different tips to reduce anxiety. You can also print out the pdf to carry around with you so that you can remind yourself what each of the tips are.
The tips include techniques such as closing your eyes to the stimulations around you, deep breathing and making a conscious effort to banish negative words from your vocabulary. She also suggests that you limit your to-do list to just two things which you plan the night before and that you tighten your boundaries.
It’s really worth taking a look!
Symbiosis- co-dependency What is it?
In this video
Mahler”s Stages of Child Development
Mahler”s Stages of Child Development – Description of seperation individuation process
The Schizoid Personality
In this video Bob Cooke TSTA talks about the features of this type of Personality-and how to work with this population in Therapy–as well as this he describes a Treatment plan, that Psychotherapists may also find useful to reflect upon.
10 Movies To Uplift You From Depression
Theresa Bouchard writing for her blog Sanity Break says that one of the best tools to combat depression is distraction. Her favourite distraction is to watch a movie. Watching an uplifting movie has an antidepressant effect because it distracts your brain from its depressive thoughts as you concentrate on the storyline. Theresa says that during the film the brain readjusts itself so that once the film is over it is a ‘bit kinder’ as you carry on with your jobs for the day.
What are your favourite uplifting films? If you are feeling low on this rainy Monday why not look one out and settle down for an hour or two. You may just feel a lot better afterwards!
Psychotherapist Internal Reflection- re clients
commander cialis More Help Thinking about your client
Go inside….
- Put yourself into your office
- Think of a particular client
- What do you think about that client?
- What do you value about them?
- What are their unique characteristics?
- In what ways if any do you express to them what you value about them?
- As you think about that client how do they organise their experience?
- Is that experience organised by particular body tension?
- Is that experience organised by expression of some particular affect or the importance of that affect?
- How do they organise that experience cognitively? In other words what kind of script beliefs did they have to help them organise their experience and although they may do some strange things and have some strange ways of seeing the work in what context was that pretty normal?
- And if you had of lived in their context how would you have survived?
- So what is it you do that makes contact with this person?
- What do you do that reaches out and touches their heart and soul? And what is the quality of relationship that you are bringing to their life.
- And how does the quality of relationship that your bringing differ from the other relationships in their life.
- And what is that sparkle in them, that sense that keeps them alive, that brought them to therapy with you? What keeps them going rather than giving up in despair?
- And what is it that you do in therapy that probably no other therapist would do it the way that you do it?
- What is it that you bring and who you are that makes a very treasured experience for that client?
Private communication from Richard Erskine 2013
High Earnings Can Hamper Happiness
The Association for Pyschological Science looks at research undertaken by a team of behavioural researchers on the tendency to overearn. The idea behind it was that overearning is a throwback in time to when people would gather resources not for the sake of happiness but simply for survival.
They carried out a series of experiments, with the aid of chocolates, and came to the conclusion that ”Overearners forgo the pleasure of leisure and endure the pain of extra work”. Overearners also have a detrimental effect in the workplace by imposing their work habits on others and a negative effect at home as they have less time to spend with loved ones.
High Earnings Can Hamper Happiness – Association for Psychological Science.
